https://www.nytimes.com/2017/04/03/well/live/turning-negative-thinkers-into-positive-ones.html
별 생각없이 그래.. 긍정적으로 살아야지 하면서 클릭했던 글인데 왠걸. 뎃글에서 한방 먹었다.
As a Canadian, I am often puzzled and fascinated by the subtle but persistent cultural differences between our two countries, given that we watch the same TV shows, listen to the same music, etc. This article reflects a deep cultural difference that comes up repeatedly, especially in movies. That is the tendency among Americans to romanticize the power and agency of the individual. This individualistic mindset narrows the field of vision when it comes to responding to a range of problems - from depression to obesity to gun violence - and blinds Americans to the possibility of collective responses. So much so that even something as basic and obvious as national health insurance is greeted with skepticism. Americans are much more inclined to believe that well-being and happiness are created and sustained by individuals (or possibly by their families). But access to resources, opportunities to achieve, and supportive, safe communities are also fundamental to happiness.
옛날에 애니어그램 하면서 혼자서 다 할 수 있다고 착각하면서 산다고 했던걸 크게 벗어나지 못하고 있나보다. 미국에 살면서 좀 더 그래진 듯하다.
미국이란 나라에서 나혼자 독립도 하고 가족도 일구었지만
내가 겪는 불안함도 아마 나 혼자서 못해낼 것이라는 두려움에서 나오는 현상이 아닐까.
좀 더 '사회적' 이 될 필요가 있다. 그렇게 생각할 필요가 있다.
그래도 여튼 이 글도 실질적인 팁을 주긴한다. 내가 아무리 백만장자여도 우울할 때가 있으므로.
Negative feelings activate a region of the brain called the amygdala, which is involved in processing fear and anxiety and other emotions.
Do good things for other people. In addition to making others happier, this enhances your own positive feelings. It can be something as simple as helping someone carry heavy packages or providing directions for a stranger.
Appreciate the world around you. It could be a bird, a tree, a beautiful sunrise or sunset or even an article of clothing someone is wearing. I met a man recently who was reveling in the architectural details of the 19th-century houses in my neighborhood.
Develop and bolster relationships. Building strong social connections with friends or family members enhances feelings of self-worth and, long-term studies have shown, is associated with better health and a longer life.
Establish goals that can be accomplished. Perhaps you want to improve your tennis or read more books. But be realistic; a goal that is impractical or too challenging can create unnecessary stress.
Learn something new. It can be a sport, a language, an instrument or a game that instills a sense of achievement, self-confidence and resilience. But here, too, be realistic about how long this may take and be sure you have the time needed.
Choose to accept yourself, flaws and all. Rather than imperfections and failures, focus on your positive attributes and achievements. The loveliest people I know have none of the external features of loveliness but shine with the internal beauty of caring, compassion and consideration of others.
Practice resilience. Rather than let loss, stress, failure or trauma overwhelm you, use them as learning experiences and steppingstones to a better future. Remember the expression: When life hands you a lemon, make lemonade.
Practice mindfulness. Ruminating on past problems or future difficulties drains mental resources and steals attention from current pleasures. Let go of things you can’t control and focus on the here-and-now. Consider taking a course in insight meditation.
